For many dealing with infertility, the holidays can be a challenging time. What is typically seen as a joyful season full of family gatherings and celebrations can feel overwhelming and isolating for those trying to conceive. The holiday season, filled with cards of smiling children and family-focused events, can intensify feelings of sadness and longing. But, it’s important to remember that you are not alone in this journey.
Here are a few strategies to help you cope during this time:
- Open holiday cards with a plan: Receiving holiday cards with pictures of growing families can be painful. Consider opening them with a supportive partner or friend who understands your situation. It can help ease the hurt when done as a team.
- Set boundaries for social gatherings: It’s okay to say no to events that you feel may be emotionally draining. If you do attend, have an exit plan in place if conversations become too difficult. Sometimes hosting your own event can also give you more control over the experience.
- Decide how much to share: You don’t need to provide every detail of your fertility journey. Share what feels right for you and set boundaries with family and friends to avoid unwanted advice or questions.
- Give back: The holidays are also a time of giving. Finding ways to help others during this season can provide a sense of purpose and control. Volunteering or supporting others can be a way to bring some light into what can feel like a dark time.
Remember, it’s okay to acknowledge your pain while finding small ways to create moments of joy. The holidays can be hard, but you don’t have to navigate them alone. Reach out for support, whether from a fertility specialist, counsellor, or trusted friends and family members. At TRIO Fertility Mississauga, we’re here for you on this journey.
If you need further resources or someone to talk to, consider support groups:
TRIO Fertility Support Group (for existing patients), https://triofertility.com/fertility-support-groups/
Fertility Matters (for anyone going through the fertility journey), https://www.fertilitymatters.ca/support/find/groups/
References:
- “Coping with Infertility During the Holidays.” Psychology Today. (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201412/coping-infertility-during-the-holidays)
- “Infertility and the Holidays: Strategies for Emotional Coping.” American Society for Reproductive Medicine. (https://www.reproductivefacts.org/news-and-publications/patient-fact-sheets-and-booklets/documents/fact-sheets-and-info-booklets/infertility-and-the-holidays-strategies-for-emotional-coping/)
- “Infertility and the Holidays.” RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association. (https://resolve.org/support/managing-infertility-emotions/infertility-and-the-holidays/)
“Coping with Infertility During the Holiday Season.” FertilitySmarts. (https://www.fertilitysmarts.com/coping-with-infertility-during-the-holiday-season.html)
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